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Being Over Polite Is Dangerously Bad for You. Here Are 6 Reasons (And Ways) to Stop Now
As written by the most polite of Brits
Brits are masters at politeness. From birth, we’re taught how to say our please and thank yous, and most importantly, our sorrys. You Americans, I hear, are no different.
Once I moved away from the UK, it became pretty clear how redundant, annoying and frankly bad for me much of my politeness was. It was costing me in more ways than one.
If you find yourself being polite to the point of painful (for you as much as everyone else), here’s why it’s time to stop.
It means you never have to have THIS conversation again…
What do you want to do?
I don’t mind. What do you want to do?
Ah I don’t mind, it’s up to you.
No no, it’s up to you.
URGH.
My British politeness training has always prevented me from doing anything about it these interminable discussions. That is, until I moved to Spain.
Living there was a revelation. No one did this, everyone simply stated what they wanted to do and a consensus was made either based on the majority, or with…
