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Cheat Codes for Life I Know at 36 That I Wish I Knew at 26
Lottery thinking holds people back. Don’t hope. Do the work so you don’t have to pray to a fake god to get what you want.
Our older selves are always wiser.
At 26 I had a closed mind, eating disorder, and thought I was smarter than Einstein. At 36 I’ve come a long way. Some of the best lessons we can share come from the advice we’d give our younger selves.
Here are my cheat codes for life at 36. Use them to upgrade your life.
1. When you get lots of rejections you stop fearing it. This makes you unstoppable.
Seek out rejection.
Measure your life based on how many recent rejections you got. Let the pain light you up, not descend you into darkness. Rejection means you’re having a crack and that’s better than what 99% of people do.
2. Busyness is a sign of poverty that will eventually lead to personal bankruptcy.
If you say I’m busy a lot it’s a red flag.
Stop being so freaking busy. Prioritize 2–3 goals and ditch the rest. Focus is what removes hocus pocus BS tasks from your life.
3. The world wants you to be normal. F*ck being normal. That’s when being extraordinary becomes impossible.
If we all blend in and do as we’re told we live in a society of sheep, where everyone drinks vanilla-flavored milk and says grace at dinner.
Being like everybody else is what makes you feel empty and as if something is missing. What’s missing is being who you want despite judgment. People will judge. Let them.
4. Most people don’t want to go to work. They just don’t know what else to do.
Sad but true.
A job is an escape for many people. They think if they show up every day their life will eventually make sense. Often it doesn’t.
