Do You Wear Your Busyness Like a Badge of Honor?

Do we need to be busy every minute of every day?

Jason Weiland
Mind Cafe
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5 min readFeb 2, 2020


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It’s a harsh question but I have to ask: Is your excuse for not living life that you are too busy? Are you ignoring the important things and people around you because you feel like you must be doing something all the time?

I know I am always too busy and preoccupied.

The first thing that snaps into my mind as I wake is what to write about and publish that day. It’s almost as if my resting mind is not resting at all but thinking of ways to feed my obsession with doing something.

Anxiety will drive me insane if I am not thinking, or typing, or researching, or reading, or editing, or one of a million other things I do to get me closer to the goal of being a financially successful writer.

Notice I didn’t say, great writer, because for me to be great, I will have to spend many more years learning the craft and making mistakes. It is not necessary to be a great writer to be monetarily successful.

No, my goal right now is to make a living as a writer, and I spend every waking hour either doing or thinking of things that will help me get one step closer to realizing my ambitions.

It’s almost like an addiction.

Even when I should be paying attention to my wife, or enjoying a fleeting moment with my son as he drifts off to sleep, I am preoccupied. I should be paying attention to the ones I love because these little moments with my family won’t last forever.

I will not be here forever.

But I can stop my mind churning, thinking of what to write, how to write, when to write, and why to write.

What is this preoccupation with making sure I am doing something every minute of every day?

What Do I Feel the Need to be Busy?

Where did I get that idea that for me to be effective, I need to be busy?

One of my mistaken notions is if I am not hustling, my wife will think I am lazy. Yes, like any spouse or parent, my wife nags when she feels like I am not holding up my side of the bargain. But that doesn’t mean she thinks I shouldn’t…



Jason Weiland
Mind Cafe

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