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How Narcissists Make Bad Situations About Them
My experience with a manipulative narcissist
Not too long ago, I started dating a woman who is as cute as can be. She has a bubbly personality and tons of energy; she’s always joking and quoting her favorite anime; and she loves going out on the town to explore new food places and activities. She’s only 5 feet tall, giving her the petite stature to complete the picture. Yet, despite how she looks and acts, I’m convinced she’s a covert narcissist.
Everything was good in our relationship. We were very long-distance but managed to consistently talk to and see each other nonetheless. The time we spent together was enjoyable, and everything went smoothly. She’s thoughtful and sweet, hardworking and talented — just about everything you could ask for in a partner.
Probably the only red flag early on was that she said she had almost entirely male friends. And while I don’t think that has to be a red flag, I’ve encountered in the past a number of cases where a woman only has male friends because they can’t get female friends due to some latent selfishness. Instead, they end up with male friends who are in the so-called “friendzone”, as these men will endure that selfishness for the hopes of eventually being rewarded with a romantic relationship.
