How to Do the Things You Actually Want to Do

Change starts with really tiny steps.

You might be unhappy for a lot of reasons.

While it might feel easy to blame large situations outside of our control, like climate change or lack of success, your discontent might be stemming from something simpler. Something you’ve done — most likely, by accident.

Subconsciously, we all care what people think about us. Without knowing it, we might be adjusting who we are, our feelings, our likes, and dislikes for our friends, family, or society at large.

In other words, you might be doing shit you don’t want to be doing, and it’s making you miserable.

How to Change Your Life (and Be a Little Happier)

The solution is simple: stop doing what others expect, and do what you want.

But simple doesn’t mean easy.

You might be miserable at your job — the one you worked hard in college to get even though you didn’t want to — but you’re married. You have two kids. You can’t quit your job just because ten years ago, you cared too much about what people thought.

But other times it is that simple.