How to Finally Change Your Thoughts—And Keep Them Changed
4 powerful steps to upgrade your mental patterns.
To change your life, you have to change how you think and feel. Whether you want to be more positive, patient, or kind, it all begins in the mind. But it’s a lot easier said than done. Many people—myself included—set out to change their thought patterns only to revert back to what they’ve always done despite their best effort.
I’ll explain why the popular approach actually sets you up for failure, leaving you feeling more discouraged and exhausted from “trying hard.” I’ll also share a far more effective (and far less stressful) strategy to help you change your thoughts and keeping them changed.
First, let’s talk about why changing your thoughts is so damn difficult.
Why It’s So Hard to Change Your Thoughts
Imagine someone wants to change the way they think so they tell themselves, “From now on, I’m going to be more positive/grateful/polite/etc.” Then, they try to think that way and mentally remind themselves again and again.
But often, nothing in the rest of their lives changed. And while their effort seems noble, after a few days or weeks, their motivation fades and they end up right back where they started.
