How to Infuse Your Life with More Meaning, Mastery, and Freedom.

In one word: commit.

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Making major life choices can be frightening. You might choose the wrong path and have to face the disastrous consequences — a marriage that ends in a horrific divorce or a job you dislike but can’t afford to quit.

You invest valuable time searching for the perfect partner and figuring out which career suits you best. You hope that all your careful planning and meticulous attention to detail will lead to happiness, but all that searching and reflecting only leads to anxiety and dissatisfaction.

The more you ask if this person is the “perfect partner,” the more likely you are to focus on thier flaws. As a result, you deceive yourself into thinking they might not be right for you. Then, you look around at other people and wonder if keeping your options open is wise.

It is not.

Keeping your options open only leads to increased anxiety and dissatisfaction as you concentrate on what may not be right instead of focusing on what is.

What is the solution?

In one word: commitment.

Commitment Comes First

Here is the truth: certainty does not precede commitment — it follows. You don’t find the…