It’s Not Your Job To Get People To Open Up To You
Prying is toxic and kind of annoying.
I’ve always felt like I have a keen sense for picking up on people’s emotions. I could give you a long list of boyfriends and friends that would say I annoyed them beyond reason by continually trying to pry how they felt out of them.
And whether or not I had this superpower of picking up on someone’s secret resentment isn’t the issue here. The issue was this: I assumed responsibility for getting people to tell me how they felt.
The other day I was an hour late to dinner with my boyfriend. This is a huge deal; I despise being late. It’s one of my biggest pet peeves with people.
This occurrence took place because I was at work and unsure of what time I’d get off. It looked something like:
*Checks phone*
“S***.. 7:01. I need to leave soon.”
*Rechecks phone*
“7:15!”
*Anxiety ensues*
*Checks phone once more*
“7:28… lovely.”
*texts bf that I won’t make it to our reservation*
My boyfriend pushed our 7:45 reservation back to 8:30. Since he hadn’t eaten all day and I had over an hour to wait for me, he…
