My Mommy Doesn’t Think I’m a Loser
When it comes to your self-worth, you might be listening to the wrong people
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4 min readOct 15, 2022
My mommy is right — I’m not a loser.
But in times of self-doubt, I’m less likely to listen to her than I am to a rando on the internet. They are the ones that have more sway over my self-worth than people who are, y’know, actually invested in me — like my own family or friends.
When it comes to our self-worth, we almost always listen to the wrong people.
And the results can be disastrous.
The self-esteem scales are rigged
It goes like this:
For every negative comment, you need five to counterbalance it. More, if you’re anything like me.
In other words — the scales are rigged:
Evolution has got a lot to answer for. We have evolved to weigh negative experiences higher than positive ones because back in the day, not paying attention to negatives could cause, well, death.
