The Winner Effect: How to Help Increase Your Confidence and Better Create Long-Term Success

Leveling up is greater than leveling the playing field.

Ayodeji Awosika
Nov 17, 2020 · 9 min read

“For to everyone who has will more be given, and he will have an abundance. But from the one who has not, even what he has will be taken away.” — Matthew 12:29

The rich get richer. The poor get poorer. When you achieve success, it’s easier to repeat your success. When you already have money, you can borrow more and invest it. If you’re already confident, you expect good things to happen to you, so they do.

The Hot Hand Reality

You’ve seen this happen in sports games all the time. This happened against my favorite player over and over again against a certain team. LeBron James played the Golden State Warriors in four straight NBA finals series, barely winning one and losing three. The Warriors had a bunch of players who were great shooters. They could be losing the game for a half, for three quarters, or even the majority of the entire game. Then, it would happen. They’d get hot.

The Catalyst For Winning

You can’t get a hot hand until you’re in the game. You can’t play the game until you start. And you won’t start if you don’t think you can win at all.

The Soft Bigotry of Low Expectations

I wrote an article about this phenomenon. Here’s a quote from it:

The Have and Have Not Paradigm

Again, in our attempts to reduce inequality we teach people to have fixed mindsets. Look at the conversation we have about the haves and have nots.

Leveling Up > Leveling the Playing Field

I’m layering these concepts because it’s important for you to understand these narratives and rid yourself of them. Rid yourself of these narratives so that you can set higher expectations for yourself.

Become a Winner

So you have the basic premise now. You build your ‘winner effect’ through a series of streaks in your life that build long-term confidence. Society does everything it can to rob you of your winner effect through good sounding yet damaging messages.

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