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To Be Happy, You Need to Get Used to the Pain

Because pain is as much a part of life as pleasure is.

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Lots of self-help writers these days write about how goals make you feel terrible and therefore you’re better of without them.

For example, Scott Adams, creator of Dilbert, claims:

“Goal-oriented people exist in a constant…




Relaxed, inspiring essays about happiness.

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Maarten van Doorn

Maarten van Doorn

PhD philosophy. Essays about why we believe what we do, how societies come to a public understanding about truth, and how we might do better (crazy times)

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