You Will Not Fit In — But You’ll Grow

And there’s nobody that can do it for you.

Bryan Dijkhuizen
Mind Cafe
Published in
3 min readJul 22, 2024

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There are so many times I felt excluded.

Feeling not good enough, weird, an alien to society.

I’m not the only one with these feelings and experiences as many people are ‘different’ in today’s world.

It was a bigger problem in the past, but I feel more accepted nowadays.

But that’s not because society has changed, it’s because I’ve changed my environment.

Moving away from a high school environment with simple-minded bullies helps. You now can talk with people about the things you like and don’t have to be ashamed of yourself.

Most of the people who were at my school went to the same university.

I chose a different place to study.

Far away from my former hometown.

In this new town, I didn’t know anybody and that gave me some breathing space to build a new identity.

I could now start over.

Build your new identity

The problem with staying in the same places all the time is that the people around you already know you.

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Bryan Dijkhuizen
Mind Cafe

Writing about the life of a neurodivergent creative in a neurotypical world. — https://bryandijkh.substack.com/