Beating Beauty: How to like your Face
As two women who have grown up in a world of quick fixes and sudden transformations, it can be easy to assume that a flick of makeup and dab of blush can make our superficial problems disappear. An acne insecurity? Simple — light retouching and an expertly applied hand are all you need, for that vacant place in your chest will surely fill right up! Worried about puffy cheeks? No stress — contour like crazy, and cover your face with your hair juuuuust so — no one will be the wiser. Those under eye circles? Simple — try that new triangle concealer technique; in five minutes flat, you’ll look just as fresh as your baby brother.
The problem, you see, looms when you take your makeup off. When you chisel away at the putty you used to cover your hurting heart, you’re left, again, with something hard to handle; fear.
An entire lifetime spent in the same body can cause moments of doubt, weakness, and yes, even jealously. Why this one? You’ll ask. How did I, what did I do to get stuck with this body? We wake up everyday and look in the mirror, point out what we hate, and proceed to spend hours covering it up, just to be strong enough to face the world. I see countless cases of this and it deeply, deeply hurts me. A truly inspiring french mademoiselle once said, “Enjoy the face you have today. It’s the one you’ll wish you had ten years from now.”
With this in mind, here’s something to bank on — That radiance, joy, sense of humour and never-ending supply of (yes!) endearing awkwardness? That, you can have forever. Those things come from a place that doesn’t begin fading at thirty, or require an all-juice diet, addiction to quinoa and Pilates membership to maintain.
Slowly, let’s start sweeping aside the stress that comes with trying to preserve an ever-depreciating asset, and begin welcoming the actual, tangible things that make us truly, SERIOUSLY beautiful. (Just for the record, we think makeup is a beautiful thing. It only works, however, if the person who’s wearing it knows how beautiful they are without it).
Now; Let’s talk skin. Let’s talk beauty. Let’s talk how to cultivate, own and maximize it, from the inside out.
A few months ago, Addison and I met up for tea to discuss our own beauty philosophies, starting on a conscious effort to live from that day on in a manner that puts soul first, skin second. Addie decided to spend her afternoon reading the works of Leo Tolstoy. I boldly chose to go to bed a bit earlier, listen more intently to my friends, and tell my parents daily I appreciated them. Little things, that when done faithfully, can pile up to create profound ripples in the lives and actions of those around us. Feel that warm, fuzzy feeling? Us too. Ahhhh.
Instead of coffee, Addie and I like sipping on beverages that make us glow. Licorice root, for one, is a sweet addition to your daily tea regime, and really helps with inflammation and stressed-out skin. Peppermint is a perhaps overlooked plant, too — delivering vitamins A and C right to the body while easing digestion, headaches, and that looming feeling of an overflowing schedule. My favourite combo of this is by sister-owned company MIYU beauty, so we met with the Canadian bestie-duo to make sure our hearts were set on a company that had a similar philosophy to our own.
Did we expect to fall in love?
Nope. Not, as the story typically goes, at all.
Miyu is one of the answers to the question so many of us have been asking — How do I feel beautiful just as I am? Sharing a cup of tea with friends, laughing more, focusing on the raw beauty in our uniqueness, experiences and limitless potential…that sounds good to us. Sticking with our mission of being a little more vulnerable for 2016, Adds and I sat down and did a little internal investigating.
I asked Addison a few questions, then we’d occasionally break for a dance party to keep it light. As one does.
Thanks for coming on this journey with us, #MOMSquad. Have a cup of tea, unwind, and let us know how your view of beauty shifts. Life is too short to hide your glow.