7 Myths about Intimate Relationships that are Making us Miserable.

Elephant Journal
Mindful Love, Loss, & Lust
3 min readNov 3, 2021

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You don’t need to love yourself before someone else can love you. Sometimes we need to be loved by another in order to learn how to love ourselves. quote pic by Elyane Youssef

We all have defined expectations of how a relationship should operate.

We have preset beliefs and needs. We want this and that. We don’t accept less than the image we have created in our minds. We…we…we…

Pause for a second. Breathe.

There is no one definition of love.

There is no set rule to determine what a relationship should look like.

If we want our relationships to succeed, we must unlearn everything we know about love and intimacy. We must step into relationships willing to be stripped of our misconceptions and familiar patterns.

I’ve recently realized there are so many myths about love that are making us unhappy and miserable. They are killing our relationships and setting the bar so high that we’re no longer differentiating between what’s real and what’s unreasonable to attain.

Below are seven myths that we must stop entertaining:

1. “Wait for the right one.” Don’t wait for the right one because there is no “right” one. No one has one person out there who was created just for them. Anyone we meet could be a potential partner for us. What’s essential is for two people…

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