I have been divorced for nearly a decade. And while I have dated sporadically in that time — I never found ‘a someone’ that fit the mold of romantic-partner-for-life.
Please don’t feel any sympathy for my plight — even though I may not have a romantic partner — it doesn’t mean My Life isn’t chock full of Love.
I have been blessed over and over by Love. My Life is FULL of Love. Once I stopped concentrating on the Love I didn’t have, I was able to see all the Love I did have.
I found Love when I stopped trying to get strangers to like me. When I stopped trying to morph myself into what others found acceptable. When I focused on the Humans in my world who loved me — deeply, vastly — for just exactly who I was.
My family. There are seven Humans in this world who make Life worth All. The. Things. My daughters, granddaughters, and sons-in-law are the most important relationships in My Life. I am grateful for their bottomless well of Love and support with every fiber of my being. No romantic relationship could ever hold a candle to the Love I share with these Humans.
My friends. I have a Tribe of the most fabulous Humans on the planet. Each unique in their own way — they Love me not because they have to but just because. In times of my greatest sorrows and tribulations — they have sat shiva with me and given me hope. They are priceless gifts, most of these relationships are decades old — but yet — they endure without angst or drama.
My sisters. While we were never particularly close growing up, my relationship with my family of origin continues to grow and strengthen. We are all grandmothers now and I feel like for the first time in our lives — we are living the same experience.
The Divine. I feel the Love of The Universe wrap around me and hold me every single day. She walks with me and whispers kindness into my being. She teaches me not only how to recognize Love in my world but also how to BE Love.
Self-Love. When I stopped trying to morph myself into someone I wasn’t — just to ‘earn’ a stranger’s love, I found that I began to Love who I was. The woman I was becoming as well as the woman I had been. Real Ann. I started seeing myself as worthy of respect and kindness. I made better choices and became more joy-filled. I learned to let go of all that didn’t serve my true self.
Today society asks us to focus only on the Love shared between romantic partners to the exclusion of any other kind of Love. But the truth is this: Love is Love is Love. Love is available to all of us. Everyday.
We have a choice to make. We can bemoan the fact that we don’t have the exact most popular formula for Love in our lives. Or we can look closer and see all the ways Love arrives.
Because truly, Love doesn’t just arrive with red roses and chocolates — most of the time it arrives with homemade cards, warm hugs from small arms, thoughtful conversations, and acts of everyday kindness and support.
Don’t waste another moment looking for Love in all the wrong places — Look for the Love that lives every day, in every way — in Your Now.