The Sexy Slow Burn: How To Have a Simmering, Mindful Relationship
Recently, while chatting with my girlfriends about dating and relationships, one of them mentioned how her relationships seem to burn hot and fast and the other chimed in, saying hers have each run a course similar to something being doused with gasoline and quickly going up in flames.
We laughed. Hard.
It was funny because it’s ridiculously familiar. Many of us have had similar experiences followed by the painful aftermath as we healed from something that began with a sudden intensity and then abruptly ended. Fortunately, there’s an alternative to fast and furious love that’s less earth shattering, but just as hot.
It’s called the sexy slow burn.
It’s an approach that can be applied to new relationships, which is what I’ll focus on here, or existing relationships. Even if you’ve been with your partner for decades — I was with my ex-husband for nearly two — there is something to be learned from the sexy slow burn.
Don’t Rush In
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