Being brave isn’t the same as being fearless. It’s about understanding why we have certain fears in the first place.
If there’s one thing that makes me nervous and gets my fear instincts running, it’s being open and honest. Needless to say, I spend a large chunk of time living in a nervous state. Just as bloody well or I’d be bored!
I don’t try to hide it. I have fears when sharing as honestly as I do. Least of which is judgement. But because I consider myself a leader, it compels me to put my fears aside and continue forward. Being brave and leading by example is a scary thing.
Being Brave Makes A Difference.
However, what I do know is that by me giving more openly and honestly, it makes bigger faster better things happen. And not just for me, but for those I share to. That is, after all, why I do it in the first place. And it’s also why I’ve encouraged anyone who’s ever sought my council, that being brave is key to creating a change in our mindset.
I am an over-thinker. And I am acutely aware I’m not alone. That’s why decades ago, I turned my attention to the mysterious art of mindset. Trying to understand why I do what I do, and so many others do too, never had being brave in its initial list of related discoveries. But here’s a secret for my fellow overthinkers. The first step in releasing ourselves from our demon is indeed the act of being brave.
Nod in agreement if you know that you spend far too much time inside your own head. Nod again, if you know that by doing so, you’re not getting to where you want to go. And finally, nod for a third time if you feel like you’re trapped in a Groundhog Day from hell because you just can’t seem to break your overthinking cycle. Regardless of your number of nods, the answer as to what you do next, equals being brave.
Being Brave Is Scary.
Our fears aren’t real until we make them so. Until we think them, believe them, and use them to justify why we feel how we do. Ever had a lightbulb moment where you realised your fear was the only thing holding you back? What did you do next?
Allow me to lead by example. I grew up a single child with an overbearing mother and a military-background father. Perfection wasn’t sought, it was demanded. Grab a free copy of my book to learn more. Since birth I’ve had only one working eye, and its lid remains closed. Because I look different I was stared at, teased, and publicly made fun of. Even poked and prodded by people on a bus. I spent years feeling I was weird, alone, and less than perfect. Then I developed a fear of meeting new people.
But one day, I fought back. As a young adult, someone said to me “wow, your eye is freaky.” To which I replied, “yeah but at least I don’t have to look at you in stereo.” When all those around began to laugh, I knew I had broken through my fear. Being brave would be required more often, but in that moment I had learned I was capable. I realised the fear I felt stuck with was the result of opinions, not what was true. By being brave I challenged myself and told those fear mongering mongrels where to get off!
I’m still nervous meeting new people, but my awareness means that challenge is easily overcome. If you meet me and think I’m weird, that’s your issue not mine.
Being Brave Is A Commitment.
But back to the broader question for those of us aware of what impacts our fears have upon us. Are we answering that question as easily? Are we being brave when required, or shying away? Well, I have a challenge.
The challenge is, do it. What you know you fear, what you know is holding you back, do it regardless. Do something, make the call, ask the difficult question, pull on the power clothes, rock that frock or ooze in that suit. Do not give another moment unto your fears dear friends, being brave is what’s called for.
The time is now. Stop thinking, start acting. And I’ll go first.
I’m writing this on a Friday. I’m have a meeting today in a room full of stranger’s bar one. I’m still afraid of meeting new people by the way. But I’m also feeling incredibly alone right now. Like I’m the only person who shares their mental health journey so openly amongst fellow business people. The meeting I’m going to, might have a big hitter or two. So I’m being brave. I’m going to say what I do, and why. Because I have no clue what difference it will make, until I speak. But if I didn’t speak up, I’d know nothing at all.
Now, it’s your turn. By being brave, what will it lead you to do?
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Simon Sharky Clark
Helping individuals and businesses create
positive shifts in their mindset and their way of thinking.