Being honest with yourself is hard. But not as hard as the lessons we learn if we ignore our truth.
My gut has a voice, and it talks to me. Now before you run in the opposite direction let me ask you three questions. Do you have a little voice somewhere inside you too? At pivotal moments in life, does it speak to you? And lastly, do you listen to it?
Maybe you refer to your inner voice by another name. Intuition, instinct, hunch, voice of reason, the “inner me”. Regardless of how you name it, wouldn’t you agree it quite often speaks the truth?
Do something for me please. Using hindsight, examine a moment from your past that called for you to be honest with yourself. Take your memory back in time to a sliding door moment. Ponder upon it. Did your little voice inside have something to say about it? Did you go with it or against it? How did that work out?
For me, when I’ve not listened to the voice in my gut, it has always seemed to cost me. And when that moment has delivered me a slap to the face, it becomes a head-shaking “should’ve known better” lesson. Then, that little voice inside me starts sprouting its truths. Speaking to me, encouraging me, calling me, “be honest with yourself”.
Naturally from the outside it’s easy to show another the benefits of following their own little voice. But let’s not go there. I want to keep it all about us, about you. What’s the truth here? Are you being honest with yourself and honouring the suggestions of your own inner voice?
We humans are made up of many things. Self-doubt being one. Self-esteem being another. We’re risk adverse, with fight or flight at our core. In our early days, what we couldn’t reason with, we would attempt to conquer or quell. And when that didn’t work, we would destroy it. Our mindset is no exception to such comparisons. If we’re wrestling with our thoughts, doubting our beliefs, or charging forward ignoring our inner truth, we’re not promoting our best interests. One thing we do know, without the need for hindsight, is that sort of action rarely ends well.
However, there is a way to harness the positives that being honest with yourself can bring. But, to enjoy any success from it, you will need to provide one thing. Commitment. To get the best from being honest with yourself, you’ll need to trust yourself and stick to what your inner voice knows is your better option.
It took me years to learn the signs that the voice in my gut used to highlight my positive options. When I’m in the thick of it, I take time out and work on calming my thoughts, and listening to my inner me. I look for simple pieces of honesty. What is it I know, but am struggling to hear / say / do? If you’re committed to being honest with yourself, you’ll learn your truth faster, and what to do next.
Honesty In Action.
Remember Fred from last week? As he set about improving his mindset and mental health, he noted hindsight had shown him plenty of opportunities to benefit from following his inner voice. Fred told me more than once, he wished he had of listened. But that’s part of what makes it so damn hard to be honest with yourself. Listening and learning that sense of trust and self-belief.
But Fred challenged that and backed himself. By committing to one course of action, listening to his inner voice, and sticking with it, he made it out the other side bigger faster better. Pretty impressive lesson hey? Be honest with yourself, and you’ll benefit.
Our mindset begins to change when we learn how we’ve had a positive impact in our life. And it can start with one small win. This builds trust in ourselves, improves our self-esteem, and our self-belief.
Truth In Time.
Take the time to listen to your inner voice. If you’re caught up in a whirlwind of overwhelming options or choices, then stop. Stop everything. Shut the door and tell the world you need five minutes to think. And if you think you can’t make that five minutes happen, then here’s a truth for you. You’re not being honest with yourself. The best way to hear your inner you, is to make time and take time to listen. Calm yourself, ignore the noise of the world, tune in to what your voice is trying to say. Change the way things work for you, by changing the way you work. Start by being honest with yourself.
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Simon Sharky Clark
Helping individuals and businesses create
positive shifts in their mindset and their way of thinking.