The Three C’s of Adversity: Commitment, Challenge and Control
Ahmed and Alex both don’t receive an internship offer they really want. Both of them feel disappointed. While Ahmed seeks advice about how to improve next time, Alex shuts down and decides to stop applying for internships altogether. He sees this rejection as proof of his incompetence. What makes certain people push through a challenge whilst others see it as detrimental?
Anybody can learn to develop resilience. Psychologist Susan Kobasa’s research spotted three key characteristics of resilient individuals. These are the three C’s of adversity: challenge, commitment and control.
Foremost, those with a growth mindset have a fascinating ability to tackle adversity head-on. They tend to see tough times as opportunities to grow. They view these times for what they are — challenges. They accept that change is a part of life. But most importantly, they believe in their ability to learn the skills necessary to get them through this time.
In struggle and chaos, the next step is still our choice. For that, let us be grateful and bold. — Brendon Burchard
On top of that, commitment stems from the idea that self-fulfilled individuals have a strong sense of purpose. Purpose provides meaning and structure that helps you understand why your goals are important to you. During tough times, knowing your “why” will be a source of motivation. To expand your commitment, reflect on why it’s important for you to overcome this challenge. How will you grow? What’s on the other side? What are you learning?
Taking advantage of your personal control involves active reflection. What aspects of this challenge can you control? Studies show that a loss of control can result in feelings of overwhelm and anxiety. During these moments, you might feel as though we’re at the whim of the world. That’s why it’s helpful to reflect on the tangible steps you can take to solving the challenge. And if there aren’t any, think about your internal control. Personal control also includes how you manage your attitude, your self-talk and where you choose to place your attention.
If you’re going through a difficult time in your life right now, take a step back. Allow yourself to feel your emotions. Then take the next step towards moving yourself forward.
