After 6 years of being the “working” parent, I’ve accepted the role of stay at home dad

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And it’s awesome! Holy shit, guys, it’s incredible. I rock the shit outta this house. Meals, dishes, laundry, cleaning, and shopping is my new jam. I wake up and treat the house like a job, and I’m an employee of the month.

There’s a stigma about stay at home dads. I’ve heard it all, especially from family. “You’re the man of the house. You need a job.” Straight up, you’re right. And I’ve just landed myself the sweetest gig on the planet. Rocking out all day with my little girl. I’ve made a living my whole life, and I feel like I’m actually living for the first time. Sure, I don’t get a paycheck, but I get to spend stupid amounts of time with my princess.

The wife has accepted a full-time position. She had cabin fever, something silly. I knew that she was ready to get back out there and earn and couldn’t be happier. We’ve basically switched roles. And it’s radical. I do the fuck out these dishes. I suit up and kill the laundry monster every morning. I flipped that pantry on its head and instituted a system that ensures we don’t go without. And I get to do it all my way. Shit, I’m a manager out here.

How does the wife feel? You’ve never seen a woman so turned on by a man scrubbing kitchen floors. She says, “They can keep their sweaty football players, mechanics, and models. I’m all about that apron.” lol And she’s happy. She has a newfound confidence, waking each day and dressing to impress. She feels like a member of the community again. Not just an employee to a “three-year-old terrorist,” she says.

I know that most guys would rather go out and get the money. I was the same way, even as I accepted my new role. But I quickly realized that life is short, and I love my family. I set my stupid man shit on the shelf and had a tea party while it collected dust. I’m a dad. And I’m good at it.

So, to the dad's out working jobs and the dads at home working just as hard. Remember that time=love. Time spent earning or time spent raising is time for your family. Whatever you’re doing, do your best and own it.

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