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Why ‘good enough’ parenting is the best kind of parenting

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As a seasoned parent, I often reflect on the early days of my parenting journey and am met with many feelings of regret. I regret the things that I spent so much time worrying about in my quest to be a perfect parent. …

“I’ll always be the more experienced one,” I tell them

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‘When I was your age’ is a phrase I’ve been using a lot lately with my kids. It has got to the point where they find it annoying. They think I say this to brag about myself all the time — I simply state the facts, that doesn’t count as bragging.

But it is an indirect means of saying I’ve been through this age, and I know what you’re thinking. Therefore, don’t try to act smart with me because chances are I’ll figure out.

So I’ll say this to my kids who think they’ve outsmarted their mother.

I know when you’re trying to cover up for a blunder you’ve made. I can tell when you try to distract me or steer our conversation in a different direction. I’ve made my share of stupid and silly mistakes, so I can expect what could’ve gone wrong. …

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The alarm rings. Another cold dark morning. It’s lockdown in London. A school day. I reluctantly rise from the warm bed.

Still, I’m in a cheery mood. I feel grateful. We have a warm bed. A daughter actually going to school.

I also think: Today will be different.

I will not nag nor get irritated. Not about the ten times I have to ask my child to get out of bed, or the unmade bed or the unpacked schoolbag or the unfinished breakfast.

I will be easy breezy. I will turn on music and dance around the kitchen as I toast bread and chop fruit. I will make jokes when she finally emerges downstairs. …

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So my boyfriend and I have been together for a year, but we love each other very much, and we think it is a smart financial decision to move in together. He has 2 kids, his oldest son is 16, and the youngest is 8. He has full custody of the 8-year-old but half of the 16-year-old.

James and I (the 8-year-old) have a pretty good relationship. He always gets excited to see me, and we watch movies or play games a lot when I’m at their house. But Nick (16yo) has never really taken a liking to me. I’ve tried to get somewhat involved with him, but he doesn’t really seem open to that idea. He tends to answer in short sentences and tries to end conversations as quickly as possible. …

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For homeschooling, work at home, when will it end parents:

My dad worked his way through college when that was possible (the 1950s). He studied until he got his Ph.D. He then settled his family with a wife that gave him 7 sons and me, his only daughter. He started to work at the university here fifty years ago.

My dad would also hide up at his office quite a bit (because we were feral :D). After I was born (I’m a twin with another brother a year younger and so on), mom got suspicious that he spent weekends up there. …

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So we’ve lived in our house for 2 years, and our 8 yo daughter has really gotten close with our neighbors across the street and our neighbors two doors down, who are all around the same age.

Our daughter also has a very strong personality. We’ve been working on this forever. There’s some anxiety sprinkled in, which manifests as outbursts when feeling overwhelmed. She is the biggest extrovert I know but also struggles with friendships as she has a hard time adjusting to criticism and change. The neighbor kids across the street also have very strong personalities. The boy has no empathy and says mean things without thinking twice, and the girl has a thing for wanting all the attention on her and likes to embarrass our daughter to make sure she’s the alpha. …

A mother’s journey through one very tough decision

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When our oldest child was a toddler, people were always commenting about how busy he was.

“Gosh, that is one busy little boy,” they would say.

Since Jesse was our first child, I suppose I didn’t know any different. Yes, I used to follow him around making sure he was keeping safe, and I thought I had an especially curious and active toddler, but I also didn’t view this as a problem.

When Jesse started Preschool at age three and a half, I noticed that some things were very difficult for him. He struggled to sit still for a story or listen to the teacher. This was made even more difficult, given that I worked at the preschool at the time. …

Hint: we’re repeating history.

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The dreaded screen time debate. Kids see fun; parents see the danger. Most people can admit to some benefit, but many others still see it as too big a threat. The associated risks (depression, anxiety, low attention span, insomnia, obesity, and an inability to focus) cause parents to enforce heavy restrictions.

Even the American Association of Pediatrics gives stringent guidelines on what to allow.

The message may be loud and clear, but is it right? Recent studies are showing inconsistencies in data, and it might be time to reassess our thinking.

When Novels Were Dangerous

Not convinced? You’re not alone. History repeats itself. Skeptics have always been quick to hand out warnings over new forms of media. …

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My friend Reid says I need to mix in some stories about the good things I do as a parent. He says people will like these posts too, and will be able to relate to me better. He may be right. But I’m struggling to think of what to write.

But then I thought of this. I am most effective as a parent when I either say nothing at all, or nod in an encouraging way and say “mm-hmm”.

Here’s how Merriam-Webster defines “mm-hmm”:

Definition of mm-hmm

— used to indicate agreement, satisfaction, or encouragement to continue speaking

Here’s how it works: my daughter comes to me with an issue. It might be about a friend or something awful that happened at school. …

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