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Pain and Pleasure: Taking Sex to the Next Level

4 min readMar 6, 2025

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Rough sex. I’m sure we’ve all experienced one of those hard fucking sessions in which the lines between pain and pleasure blur and you and your partner(s) are left breathless and spiraling. Right?

Pain and pleasure go so well together when the situation is right, and that’s what I want to talk about today.

How do we safely mix pain and pleasure to heighten our sexual experience? Why do pain and pleasure go together like peanut butter and jelly? Let’s explore.

Disclaimer: I am not a medical biology professional. The information provided below is my understanding of what happens in our bodies and is not based on research. It’s based on my general understanding of human anatomy and things I’ve learned and experienced throughout my life. Please consult with professionals before trying anything outlined in this article.

Ok, now that we have the disclaimer out of the way, let’s dive into first why pain and pleasure can mix so well together.

Our bodies are marvelous. When our bodies feel pain, we often release chemicals to help us compensate, and these chemicals are designed to make us feel good. It’s a very similar response to when we feel pleasure. When we mix pain and pleasure, we are introducing additional stimuli to get these chemicals flowing in double fashion.

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Modern Sexuality
Modern Sexuality

Published in Modern Sexuality

Exploring the links between life, happiness, and sex.

Vee Sullivan
Vee Sullivan

Written by Vee Sullivan

Writer and blogger of sex, sexuality and life.

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