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4 Modern Mental Health Tips For Moms

Supporting your mental health daily makes for a happier mom, happier baby, and happier life.

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As moms, we need an escape from the mundane every now and again. We need vacations more than once a year. We need our girlfriends. We need candid conversations on how taxing motherhood is. We need laughter. We need pockets of sunshine when it’s raining. We need each other.

Whether you’re a brand new mom thrust in the tundra of newborn dizziness or a veteran mother smiling back at your great, great-grandchildren, it’s pretty amazing that we all have the same thing in common — the deep understanding of what a mixed bag of emotions motherhood brings.

Sometimes what we need most is for someone to look us in the eye and say, “I get it.”

When I became a mom, I learned the hard way that good mental health is not a given. Now, after the fact, I know that being proactive with your mental health is the only way you win in parenthood. And in life.

Here are 4 things moms can (and should!) routinely do in order to keep their mental health in tip-top shape.

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Take Seasonal Mom-Springas

Aka solo vacations away from your kids and all other responsibilities so you can return home refreshed, recharged, and excited about life.

Having trips and other fun to-dos to look forward to is everything when it comes to mental wellbeing. These can be day trips, staycations, or weekend getaways — go to the spa, go shopping, visit friends, go on a wellness retreat, etc. The point is to do something indulgent for you and only you.

Own a Cool Mom Mantra

We are who we say we are, so when we repeat powerful, positive phrases about ourselves each day, we train our brains to believe them.

Self-mantras like “I am a badass,” “I deserve happiness,” and “I am in control of my day” are magic. They make the tough days bearable and the good days that much better.

Pick a Mindfulness Spot

While we can’t prevent the overwhelm and confusion of parenting when it strikes, we can put ourselves in a zen state of mind when we feel we’ve reached our snapping point.

Designate a peaceful area in your home (like your back porch or favorite sofa) when you need a minute to breathe. Meditating, even for a minute or two, holds the power to shift our mind and rid negative energy. It is a grounding practice reminding you that whatever chaos is happening will pass, and that you are in charge of your attitude.

Be Blunt with your Partner

When you’re feeling disconnected, tell your partner exactly what you need from them. A hug? A night to be left alone without feeling guilty? Take the initiative to plan dates if your partner won’t. And remember you are in parenting together.

Phrases like “I need you to cover bedtime tonight” or “We need to have sex” are necessary in keeping both your relationship and your mental health intact.

Thank you for reading!

Ashley is a freelance writer based in Connecticut specializing in mental health. Her work has been featured in Forbes, POPSUGAR, Well + Good, Modern Mom Probs, and more. Her mission in life is to make mental health work fun, and believes our weirdness is what makes us great.

Keep up with her cheeky mental health newsletter, Sip Sip.

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Ashley Alt

Ashley Alt

Life is better when we laugh. I write about the importance of mental health & believe our weirdness is what makes us great. https://ashleyalt.substack.com/