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5 Reasons Not To Take Your Partner’s Last Name

Keep your “maiden” name or choose a new one

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In August 2017, at the age of 65, I went to court and officially changed my last name. Just for me. Not to my maiden name, or my former or current husbands' names. I chose the middle name of my father and his father — Oakman. I have no idea about its origin or how it fits into my genealogy. It just seemed right…



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Robin Oakman

Storyteller. Poet. Feminist. Life is full of rude awakenings and magical wonders. Writing my Last Lecture. You are invited.