LIFE LESSONS/ADVICE

A Cautionary Tale of Family, Sacrifice, and the Cost of Losing Yourself

A True Story About Love, Boundaries, and Regret

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“You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.”
— Unknown

Over a decade ago, back when my family was living in New England, I used to work out at the local YMCA. I would take fitness classes, work out on the machines, and walk laps around the indoor track most days. The indoor track helped me get my steps in, and honestly, it was a great way to meet up with friends as well. On any given day, I would meet someone or the other and chat with them while I got some exercise.

The Y is also where I met Janice. (Not her real name.)

She was around my mom’s age (in her early 70s), Malaysian, and widowed. There was something dignified about her. She just had this calm, graceful presence. We met through a mutual friend at the Y and walked together there occasionally. Over time, she opened up to me about her troubles.

Her story broke my heart.

Janice and her late husband had sacrificed everything for their kids. We’re talking the best schools, music lessons, help with grad school — the whole shebang. Her children grew up and did very well for themselves…