Nonfiction (memoir)

Choosing My Wedding Dress

Good luck being unique on the most culturally-regulated day of your life

Dr. Casey Lawrence
Modern Women
Published in
7 min readJan 19, 2024

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A wall of white dresses by Oleksii Karavan on Unsplash

Walls of white lace, tulle, satin, and silk greet you when you go wedding dress shopping. Whether you’ve entered a big box chain like David’s Bridal or a small “designer boutique,” you will be drowning in dozens of white dresses that somehow look exactly the same, yet vary in price by thousands of dollars over the tiniest of details.

Although I had less than eight months to plan my wedding, from the day Rhys and I decided we were getting married to the date we chose to tie the knot (our seven-year anniversary)—I thought I had plenty of time to find my perfect wedding dress.

I was wrong.

Most wedding planning websites suggest you begin shopping one year before your big day. It was overwhelming, to say the least, when I came home just four months before my wedding day to look at dresses for the first time. I was living abroad and wanted my mom to be part of the experience, so I booked a flight home.

So I had just ten days to find and order my perfect dress. To maximize my time home, we packed every weekday with bridal appointments, with meetings with the florist, venue, and other vendors squeezed in between.

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Dr. Casey Lawrence
Modern Women

Canadian author of three LGBT YA novels. PhD from Trinity College Dublin. Check out my lists for stories by genre/type.