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Freedom Was Always Mine — So Why Can’t I Feel It?
Her words made me realize how much I still seek approval
Was it the algorithm or serendipity that led me to this article today?
I just read My Second First Date by Adeola Sheehy-Adekale. What drew me in was the subtitle of her article; How often are we the only real thing standing in our way? Does that resonate with you as well? I could try to blame others or the world systems, but as I grow older, wiser, emotionally stronger, and healed in my soul, I can see the truth.
It all comes back to me.
- What do I allow?
- How do I maintain my boundaries?
And, this is the hard part that I’m still navigating through:
- What thoughts am I thinking and believing?
Here’s what got me thinking about this today. Adeola’s story begins with a dating experience, and within that context, she opens up to a common theme we women struggle against. She wrote:
“Then I realised that I was still focused on the external gaze. Still wondering what the other person sees, what they want me to be, how I can be attractive to them.”
