I Used to be a Pick-me Girl

My Journey Breaking Free from the ‘Unlike Other Girls’ Phase.

Kicauanuri
Modern Women
2 min readFeb 9, 2024

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Photo by Kenny Eliason on Unsplash

I used to be pick-me girl by trying to be different from other girls just to get some validation. But then, I had this lightbulb moment — “I’m like other girls.” We all been through “unlike other girls” phase in our life, and that’s okay. It’s part of human being.

Nowadays, I’m just doing me, embracing my feelings and scribbling them down in my diary. Get to know myself: “who am I? what I feel? and what should I do to deal with that.” Journaling all my thoughts onto safe pages. It’s like a therapy session with myself.

Moreover, when I don’t even know how to describe it — It happen when the pain got deep into my soul, I painted every pain I felt on canvas and transformed it into art. It’s part of my healing methods to express my innermost emotions.

Putting on makeup, even when I am alone, is a form of self-expression that brings me delight. Every swipe of makeup tools on my face turns into happiness. I’m feeling good about my looks without sizing myself up against others. Everyone has their own kind of beauty, and it’s not about society’s validation; it’s about enhancing our unique beauty.

Dressing well is part of lovingly curating outfits that reflect my mood, personality, and aspirations. I no longer seek others’ approval. I am here to find happiness in how I look in front of the mirror.

These experiences helped me realize the awesome power of being a woman who owns her happiness. I take pride in my connections with other girls; our diverse interests make us a badass team.

Thus, I’ve found my groove and take pride in being a woman who embraces sensitivity, enjoys passion, writes, paints, and does stuff for herself.

~Toodle-oo!

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Kicauanuri
Modern Women

Overthinking human beings who love to write stuff.