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I Was a Rotten Mother With a Lousy Baby

I bought in to the delusion that my baby and I would be “naturals.”

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When I preparing for my baby, years ago, it was in a Kool-Aid culture in which your work on the little clothes, the special artistic touches, the classes, the over-the-top showers, all promised to enhance your “bonding” with the baby.




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Martha Manning, Ph.D.

Martha Manning, Ph.D.

Dr. Martha Manning is a writer and clinical psychologist, author of Undercurrents and Chasing Grace. Depression sufferer. Mother. Growing older under protest.

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