If You Don’t Love Yourself, Maybe the Answer is to Become Someone Else
I’ve had enough of hearing “It’s not you, it’s me.” It IS me.
Those who seek a better life must first become a better person. — Jim Rohn
I read once that you shouldn’t tell people who are depressed over a breakup or over being single for a long time: “You have to love yourself before anyone else will be able to love you.”
For someone who has struggled with depression and anxiety for decades, I know that loving myself can be quite a tall order, even on the best days.
There have been times when I’ve thought: “If I have to love myself before someone else loves me, no one is ever going to love me.”
So, it’s cruel in a way, isn’t it?
You might think you’re helping someone by encouraging them to love themselves first, by telling them to “accept yourself as you are or no one else ever will”, but I think the comment can be extremely damaging — an attack of sorts.
If I had to stand naked in front of a mirror with some little encouragement fairy hovering over my shoulder and screaming into my ear:
“Love yourself! Love yourself just the way you are!”
