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I’ll Never Live Up to My Mother’s Expectations — And I’m Now Fine With It
It’s not me, it’s her
“I’m disappointed with life”
That’s what my mother said when I told her I was moving back to Amsterdam — I didn’t know I was expected to never leave France again.
I used to be frustrated, angry at her for not trying to adopt a different mindset, and not trying to see the silver lining.
Learning about psychology and developing other relationships has opened my eyes. I now know I’m not responsible for her always seeing the glass half empty, and I can’t help her take a new approach if she doesn’t want to.
I’ve learned to focus on the good in our relationship, and accept the way she is, without beating myself up.
If you struggle with someone who’s always disappointed in you, read on and you’ll feel better about it.
Realizing this helped me put things into perspective
It’s hard to accept a frustrating situation when you don’t have the full picture, and don’t know what lies under.
After years observing my mother, I’ve come to face the obvious reality.
