“I’m 45 and Decisively Choosing Divorce”
In Marriage, Women Should Not Tolerate This
The neighbor Aunt Linda got divorced.
It made us, the neighbors, feel very uncomfortable. A year ago, Aunt Linda started having emotional issues with her husband.
A year ago, when her husband was on a business trip out of town, he came back with a changed attitude, started playing on his phone a lot, and secretly called someone for three and a half months.
At that time, Aunt Linda still trusted her husband, thinking he was just making work-related calls.
Only this year did Aunt Linda discover that her husband had betrayed her a year ago.
Knowing this, Aunt Linda was heartbroken for many days and finally decided to divorce her husband.
During a chat with us, she said, “At 45, I’m still choosing divorce. For my self-respect, facing a man who betrays marriage should not be tolerated.”
Before this, Aunt Linda and her husband had gone through a lot together. At the beginning, they had no money and even slept in a basement.
But now, she couldn’t forgive her husband for this betrayal. In marriage, if you betray your partner, you are no longer loyal, and such actions are intolerable.
A man can be broke, unattractive, or have no connections, but he must be faithful in handling relationships.
Betrayal happens zero or countless times. In real life, many men beg for forgiveness after betraying their wives.
A principled woman can never forgive a husband who betrays the marriage because forgiving once may lead to repeated betrayals.
There was a popular show recently called “Nothing But Thirty.” In this show, after the male lead betrayed his marriage, he begged for forgiveness from his wife, who did not forgive him.
Watching that episode with my best friend, she said, “Pity the person, hate the behavior. Such people are unforgivable.”
We felt sorry for the male lead but agreed not to forgive because he might repeat the mistake, causing more harm.
As a woman, if you find out your husband has betrayed you, it’s better to divorce. Forgiving repeatedly only leaves you deeply wounded.
Women must live freely. Relying on oneself is crucial. If you let your man’s betrayal make you increasingly decadent, no one will respect you.
Smart women choose to divorce first when their husbands betray them. It’s better to leave gracefully than wait for the husband to ask for a divorce.
Women easily follow their hearts in marriage. So when a man betrays you, some women give him a lot of leeway.
Imagine a man who can betray you must not truly care. So when sympathizing with him, women need to be a bit selfish to avoid being taken advantage of.
Women who divorce a man who betrayed them may feel down for a while, but eventually, they need to face life anew.
Reuniting after betrayal may leave cracks. Even if a wife forgives a husband’s betrayal, there will always be emotional scars.
In the entertainment industry, when an artist cheated on his wife, she forgave him, but after many years, they still divorced.
Even if you forgive someone, the mental burden and torment of imagining them with someone else can be unbearable.
It’s better to end things than torture yourself. Seek your happiness without someone who doesn’t value you.
In any situation, defend your position and live for yourself. No matter your age, if your man betrays you, become better and divorce him. If he betrays you, the marriage is no longer healthy. He has changed or never loved you from the start.
