Modern Women: June Writing Prompts & Theme

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I’ve been single for 4 years. As time goes by, I get more and more used to this new normal, and to be honest, I like it. I love not having to compromise and negotiate daily. I love decorating my to suit me. Planning my time around my needs (as much as life with children will allow) and getting to continually ask myself ‘what do I need right now’, and even better than that, getting to respond to and meet those needs.

And perhaps that’s the biggest difference in pre and post relationship for me… I believed for decades that I needed support, that I wouldn’t be able to manage alone. And that is so far from true, it has been a revelation. Now importantly that’s not in a hyper independent way, I’m more than happy to accept and even ask for help. But I’ve gotten to a point in which I realise I do not need a man in my life, but I do still want one. And those are very different things.

My question as I look forward has been is marriage off the cards, does is change anything in a relationship or is it just the remnants of childish fantasies? What does it mean to me?

I think for many women marriage was wrapped up in a kind of safety or security that went along with finances during a relationship, and in the possible event of it ending. I don’t think I’d…