ABUNDANCE

My Grandma, “Guiding Light” and the Secret of the Soup

Kathleen M. Miller’s Finest Ingredients for a Beautiful Life

Lindy Vogel
Modern Women
Published in
5 min readNov 30, 2022

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The author with her father and grandparents, at the author’s baby shower, 2004. (Author’s Photo)

“When I grow old I hope to be
As beautiful as Grandma Lee.
Her hair is soft and fluffy white.
Her eyes are blue and candle bright.
And down her cheeks are cunning piles
Of little ripples when she smiles.”

-Rose Henderson

What does it mean to be a beautiful person?

Some people — often men — say that a woman is graceful so long as she’s smiling. In fact, my dad used to say that to me when I was 13 and had a mouthful of braces. File under: Ways to know you’re going through an awkward stage.

Sure. Smiling humans are beautiful. But I can’t agree with the “beauty is as beauty smiles” thing, and I don’t think Grandma completely would have, either — especially in her last decade on earth. There are perfectly good occasions for the stoicism and sadness, anger and indifference, and the terror and exhaustion a woman can wear — especially while parenting and wifing.

And while there is a stunning ballgown beauty in joy, some rooms are impossible to joyfully waltz through.

Some Facts About Grandma’s Life:
Grandma outlived some of her younger siblings, her youngest son, and…

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Lindy Vogel
Modern Women

Salty bitch, mom of six. Founder of Sweary Mommy. Failed model. Essayist and humorist. Words in YourTango, Pregnant Chicken, Monterey Bay Parent, & Nameberry.