New Moms are More Than Someone Who Just Gave Birth
How would YOU describe a new mom?
Traditionally, a new mom is someone who has given birth for the first time.
But I firmly believe you become a mom the moment you find out you are pregnant.
Life is growing inside of you, and you connect to that little person immediately and irrevocably.
And each pregnancy, each birth, teaches you something new and different about yourself and what it means to be a mother.
You’re a New Mom, then, with your first, second or eighth pregnancy. (Or however many you have the strength for!)
You’re also a New Mom the moment you plan on adopting a child or get a surrogate to carry your baby for you. The intention and desire is there — you are already considering that little person in your future decisions. That makes you a mom in my book.
A New Mom is someone who is scared. She is scared for her child, worried about the impact the world will have on their little one and terrified of all the things that can go wrong.
A New Mom feels the pressure from society to do and be “it all” and do so with a smile.
A New Mom is someone who feels insecure, overwhelmed and lacks support from her peers, society and the world at large.
A New Mom sometimes feels like she’s drowning in this rising tide of expectations from everyone and herself.
A New Mom is also someone who is excited about her little one, and she can’t wait to meet that person and watch their personality develop.
A New Mom is happy and in love with her child, and that feeling intensifies to the degree that it is indescribable.
A New Mom finds the strength to do what is best for her child and moves mountains to make her child happy.
A New Mom often forgets to look after herself, too.
A New Mom might forget her own desires, dreams, and ambitions. She puts them aside to make the world an oyster for her little one.
A New Mom has a lot of stresses to cope with — she does it because she has so much LOVE.
So judge not a New Mom that is struggling, that is dealing with a toddler throwing a tantrum, or that chooses to enjoy a pizza for one night instead of cooking.
Celebrate her. Celebrate the New Mom and revere her and her perseverance, her love and dedication, and her strength.
Because, without her, the world would be a sad and unhappy place.
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