The Paradox of Too Many Prospects
The illusion of endless romantic options is plaguing this generation
I am not looking to sound controversial, but the number of times I’ve been hit on, and chased by men who were either committed, engaged to marry, or married (sometimes, even to the point where it can be considered harassment) while their partners stay completely oblivious makes it to my list of top 10 reasons why I think marriage in this generation, is not all that it’s made out to be.
This is a cheating and lying generation where everyone thinks they have a lot of options. Thanks to social media and all the dating apps that they keep churning out in chunks, every year promising to deliver your one true love, with one right swipe at a time.
Infidelity is at an all-time high. A lot of them think and believe that they have many “options” (please read disposables).
Okay now coming to the math of it, how many of those options are genuinely in love with you, and are right for you?
Or, how many are not there just for lust or selfish reasons but disguising it well, until they get out of you all that they need?
Please think about it and exercise discretion. Why do you think you have all those options? It’s simply because you’re a woman and desperate men are abundant.
A good man has standards and is not out there chasing girls. He is not a philanderer. If he wants you, then he will show it with his consistent efforts and your female instincts will tell you that he’s the one.
A good man invests his time in his career, growth, family, and the woman in his life or during the absence of a partner, minds his own business until he finds someone worth his standards. A good man is faithful and isn’t driven by his impulses. He is honest and truthful, and that’s why he is brave and fearless. He knows what he wants and goes after it.
As a girl or a woman, it is very tragic to put all your worth into how much attention and validation you receive from the opposite gender. It gives low self-esteem and low confidence.
What will happen when you stop receiving that attention? Start putting your worth into better things. Things that will last and will be fruitful. Things that are worthwhile and no one can take away from you.
You will probably end up attracting the right man for you once you start valuing yourself and stop being available for men who refuse to grow up and are literally wolves in sheep’s clothing.
We have examples of good men around us to look up to, and if you don’t have such men around, kindly change your circle.
Good men exist. Good people exist. They might be few and far between in your list of options, or in general but they’re not an extinct breed.
One good man/woman is worth thousands of useless options. If you’ve found your person, keep them close. If you haven’t yet, keep looking, you might stumble upon them, one fine day.
Be wise enough to recognise them. Be courageous enough to take that walk with them.
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