Want to Clear Your Limiting Beliefs? It’s Time For Some Thought Gardening
Plant new seeds of enoughness
I’m sure we all have a great many limiting beliefs. Buried within the layers of our conscious and subconscious mind.
Acquired from early caregivers, peers, leaders, role models, relationships, media and life experiences.
They’ve piled onto the load, embedding further, with each new exposure to the patterns we keep repeating because of them.
Eventually, they become a self-fulfilling prophecy. We seek them out to prove ourselves right.
Deep down at the core, the darkest, dirtiest, most painful one of them all. ‘I am not enough’.
Its roots creep out, twisted vines forcing themselves into all the segments of our lives. Seeking to wrap itself around the stem of each anxious doubt and to suck it down into the depths. Its menacing whisper drills into our souls. ‘I’m not strong enough, I’m not smart enough, I’m not beautiful enough, I’m not successful enough.’ A multitude of reasons to fuel our lack-filled thoughts. Suffocating, drowning, choking us. Stealing our worthiness from us.
What would we do, who could we be if we could just pluck those thoughts out and brush them away?
Except, they are woven into our identity. As we’ve grown, they’ve grown with us. Entangled and entwined into our story.
They become familiar, and even safe in their predictable patterns. Keeping us small, but well within our self-imposed comfort zone.
A little hula hoop around us that sways to the smooth rhythm but will crash to the ground with any sudden change of direction or pace.
How deeply we could breathe if we could break free.
We can’t dig out these limiting beliefs. We can’t cut, yank, pull, grab, abstract or expunge them. The very act of doing so would push them in deeper.
So, we must turn our back on them instead. If we keep feeding them, they keep growing. But if we starve them of all thoughts and attention they will wither and fade.
Instead, we can plant new seeds of enoughness. Gently caressing and nourishing them. Remembering to water them and show them sunlight. We can watch them bloom and flourish. Then when they have grown to full strength, we can propagate them and share them with others.
Together we can grow a meadow of wildflowers, and the bees will dance between the petals and fertilise these new beliefs that we plant in ourselves and each other.
