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Why Do I Keep Getting into Bad Relationships?
I kept getting my heart broken as a young adult by getting into one bad relationship after another and not understanding why
Trauma can include any experience where one feels overwhelmed with hopelessness or fear. “Inside traumas” are things people do that tend to re-traumatize themselves, according to Anna Runkle. Other terms for this are self-defeating behaviors or self-sabotage. These behaviors often start as an innocent flight away from pain but can create more trauma and life problems if they persist, keeping people from healing. One major “inside trauma” is the attraction to troubled partners. Those affected by childhood PTSD are often attracted to people who were traumatized and tend to have high levels of drama and overwhelming levels of conflict in many areas of their lives. The good news is recognizing an “inside trauma” in one’s behavior means they are already halfway to healing that behavior. By recognizing the behavior, one can work on forming a better response.
I was a victim of inside traumas where I got into relationships with one unsuitable partner after another. The relationships didn’t meet my needs and didn’t last long, meaning I went through one breakup after another. It was emotionally exhausting and each breakup dampened my hope that I…
