Why You Should Watch Out for Incels Disguised as Friends

At what point does empathy become self-destructive?

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Some time ago, I shared a comment in a post about incels — about how deeply dangerous their mindset is to our society. It wasn’t even harsh, just honest. But one guy replied, trying to guilt-trip me. He said I should feel sorry for them. That they were lonely. That they were hurting.

And I get it — pain is real. Loneliness is real. But when that pain curdles into hatred, when that loneliness turns into entitlement and violence, we can’t keep excusing it.

Now I may not be the most empathic person in the world, however, I do feel sorry when it’s necessary. I feel sorry for the victims of rape, murder and violence. I feel sorry when tragedy strikes and the innocent get caught up in the crossfire.

What I refuse to feel sorry for is when the perpetrators of these crimes go unpunished — when society tells me to empathize with the offender and pretend their actions were somehow justified by pain. No!

There is no excuse for believing you’re entitled to another person’s body, time, or love simply because you desire it.

We are all entitled to our own emotions, not to anyone else’s. Love, affection, and…