With no Roster, I’m Losing the Dating Game.
Is there really no hope for the one-at-a-timers?
Today, the Gurus of the dating world have spoken!
Not only are more of us looking to the dating and relationship influencers for fool-proof advice but we’re also checking social media for the latest trending views in society- most of us too lazy to form our own.
Which normally means we’re due to judge one another a lot quicker, causing more insecurity and rise in trust issues. Putting all your effort into one person just because you like them seems to ludicrous!
Ultimately, dating is meant to be fun; you’re sampling, building your taste palette, learning more of what you like and dislike, whether you’re looking for something serious or not.
Personally, I’ve been dating for 5 years and according to life in 2024, I’m doing it all wrong. I’ve never had a roster!
A dating roster means dating like your single and you mean it!
Anyone you connect with that has potential can jump on the schedule and gradually show you their cards. You can then decide if this person is for you or not- eventually narrowing down to the one.
The moment you see a waving red flag you can put that potential individual on the back burner while you give another candidate more attention, or just simply drop them from the rotation.
The benefits make sense:
Having a roster increases your chances of finding the one for you. You work out what traits you like and dislike and if it doesn’t work out, you know what to look for (or look out for) in the next one.
As the saying goes, “don’t put all your eggs in one basket”. And by sharing out those precious eggs of yours, that teenage- like obsession to make it work can be kept at bay. You have options after all!
If you’re someone who knows what they want, you can get to the goal quickly through this simple filter process.
This all sounds perfect, so what’s the problem? I can’t do it!
I was born with a big, soft, tender heart. When I like someone, I’m practically in love. Once that’s kicked in- it’s curtains for anybody else.
I managed to get to the building block stage but I was utterly useless. There was always a clear favourite, who stayed up front, on full heat, red flags and all!
I eventually stopped entertaining the other poor hopefuls and I was back to traditional one-on-one play.
Although I’m still single, I’m ok with sticking to my method for now.
To all my singles who never learned how to juggle:
Don’t feel pressured to keep up with what the ever changing standards of society tell you. Personally, I’m proud of myself for being so full of love despite how brutal these streets can be.
Nobody wants to get hurt so the idea of having plan B, C and D makes sense but if you’re anything like me, that fear simply cannot not live within you. Understand that investment comes with risk.
