What Does it Mean to Date Your Wife?
Verb: to make a usually romantic social arrangement to meet with.
What does it mean to date your wife?
I don’t like this cliché piece of marriage advice. You rarely get enough information, because we all know what dating is and means. Dating means turning up the romance knob, glancing at her with that shining light in your eyes. It means sacrificing for her. It means pursuing her and courting her. Dating means big displays of affection and proclamations of undying love. Dating means over the top gift giving and trip taking.
Amid all of this is another key aspect of ‘dating’, one we cannot recreate no matter how hard we want to. Those little things called hormones. Specifically dopamine.
“Why does love fade? Our brains are programmed to crave the unexpected and thus to look to the future, where every exciting possibility begins. But when anything, including love, becomes familiar, that excitement slips away, and new things draw our attention. The scientists who studied this phenomenon named the buzz we get from novelty reward prediction error, and it means just what the name says.” -D. Lieberman & M. Long
I suppose this is the main reason I dislike this suggestion of ‘date your wife’, anytime I go searching for…
