Beware of the Takers
We all have come into contact with these types of people whether we are aware of it are not. These are people who move funny and completely disregard other people’s feelings. They are foul and definitely should be trusted. Unfortunately, they may come in the form of the people closest to us. Although we may have love for them and have known them for years, it is imperative that you scope out the takers and remove them immediately. I know it hurts, but it’s for the greater good. So how do we know who’s genuine and who’s not? Here are some sure-fire signs that you have a taker in your life.
1. Watch how they show up for you vs. when you show up for them. Yes, this includes birthdays, achievements that you have made, or your business. It can even be as little as reposting a picture you’ve posted on Instagram! They post all their other friends, but when it comes to you? Crickets. Watch out for those.
2. They act like everything is such a chore for them. You’ve bent over backward for them and never threw it in their face. Everything you’ve done has been out of the kindness of your heart. Because why not? If that’s your dawg, you won’t hesitate to do it again. But once YOU finally need something, they act like it’s exhausting for them to help you. And on top of them doing that favor, they throw it in your face every chance they get. They act like you should kiss the ground they walk on, and that’s a no-no. These are the traits of a taker, everyone. Beware.
3. They’re never satisfied. Do you have a person who’s always complaining, who has the worst attitude in the world, who never seems to find any joy in life? Taker. Now, these people are NOT to be confused with your friends who struggle with their mental health. That’s a whole different ball game. And you should never judge them for being irritable because they are dealing with depression. I’m referring to the people who are just straight bitter for sport. Always rolling their eyes, talking to you crazy, always COMPLAINING. Yessir, you guessed it. Taker.
4. The jokes that aren’t really jokes. We all love to joke around with our friends. There’s nothing wrong with that. But watch out for the “friends” who make jokes about your insecurities or trauma. They’re not your friends. These are generally people who see your light and try to dim it in the sneakiest ways.
5. Always playing the victim. DON’T ever let anybody make you feel bad for reacting to disrespect. Especially if you’re one of those people who takes a lot of BS before you explode, beware of those who play the victim after they have betrayed you, lied to you, and broke YOUR trust. You are allowed to react the way that you do. Be extra wary of the people who don’t apologize for what they’ve done to YOU. I don’t care how much you miss the friendship or relationship, do NOT reach out to them. If somebody can’t see how they’ve wronged you, chances are they never will. Therefore, don't even waste your time trying to explain yourself to anyone who never cared about your feelings in the first place. If they really cared, they would reach out to you and apologize for what they did. And if they don’t? Well, that wasn’t somebody that you needed in your life. We take accountability over here, honey.
When you are evolving into your higher self and becoming the person that you want to be, you don’t need that negative, draining energy in your life. If you pay close attention, you can see who has your back and who is lifting you up as opposed to the people who are holding you back and dragging you down. You should never feel drained in a relationship or friendship. The people around you should water you and help you grow, not kill you. A new year is approaching everyone, and it’s all about protecting your energy. After going through hell this year, it is important that you preserve your light because it’s amazing that you still have one despite all the stuff around us.
