7 Ideas To Keep the Spark Alive in Your Relationship
Add more creativity to your relationships.
You’ve been together for years now, and things seem pretty good between you. The spark has never gone out, though, and you both enjoy spending time together. Still, you sometimes wonder whether you should take the next step.
There are two main reasons why couples get into trouble in their relationships. One is infidelity, where they cheat on each other. The other is boredom, where they don’t care about each other anymore.
“You’ll encounter relationship stressors like financial problems and family obligations that will shift your focus elsewhere”
— Team Tony in Tony Robbins
But even with normal relationships without cheating, you can lose your sparkle. Some couples start to have less sex, romance, or understanding.
To keep the spark alive, you need to make sure that you’re always thinking about your partner. This means being romantic, thoughtful, and attentive. If you want to keep the spark alive, try these 7 ideas to keep the spark alive in your relationship.
Have Fun Together
You should always make time to enjoy each other’s company. There are many ways to have fun together.
Go out for dinner, go dancing, play video games, watch movies, or even take a walk around the neighborhood. These things help you bond with your partner and get closer to them.
Do you remember how it was important to stay together at the beginning of your relationship?
It was a special feeling, and it doesn’t matter where you both were.
When your relationship just started, your biggest wish was to see each other every day, hour, and minute.
Within the time it might change.
Try to have fun together again. It doesn’t matter what you will do. The only thing that matter for both of you is staying together and enjoying every moment.
Look at your first photos and remember the places you were together, try to visit them again. Try to recover the same fun feeling you used to have.
Talk About What Matters
It’s significant to talk about what matters to you. When you talk about what matters to both of you, you’re showing that you care about each other.
And when you show that you care about each other’s feelings, you’re showing that your relationship means something to you.
At the beginning of your relationships, each of you cared a lot about the other. But life continues and you might become more selfish.
This is human nature, and you can’t avoid it. You want to sleep more, you don’t want to cook as you used to…
Something that you love to do for your second half before might become a thing that irritates you.
To avoid these feelings, find values that both of you have. Why have you selected your partner? What matters the most for you and him?
When you remind yourself about crucial things for both of you, it will be a great reminder to start doing great things again.
You’ll feel inspired, and grateful for your partner.
Try to talk about important things out loud. It will be a valuable conversation and a reminder at the same time. The conversation always matters, especially if it’s about essential things.
Make Time for Each Other
Make sure you spend some quality time together. Whether it’s watching TV, reading books, playing board games, or taking walks, make sure you find time to connect.
I’ve mentioned before to have more fun together, but here’s my following piece of advice. Try to be close to each other even without fun.
The basis of any relationship is not sex only, but staying together. It means feeling each other close enough.
All relationships start from a wish to have someone near you. This is why you start to date, build relationships and live with your partner.
Within time this sparkle can become weak. To make it bright again, you need to be close to your partner physically. And this is possible without sex as well.
Start your day in a new manner. Have breakfast together, go shopping, have dinner, walk, watch a movie…
While you’re staying together, talk and listen to each other. Listen to how your partner’s day went or share anything from your side.
Don’t Take Things Personally
Don’t take things personally. If you start thinking negatively about your partner, you won’t be able to maintain a positive attitude toward them. Instead, try to look at things objectively.
Try to understand where your partner is coming from instead of getting upset over their actions.
Let’s have a quick example. You were watching a movie and the main heroes were so inspiring that you started to compare your life to theirs.
You can quickly find some gaps and problems in your and your partner’s life. Once you identified the issues, you will share some tips with your partner on how to improve.
This is the wrong strategy. Never compare a movie or something beyond your life to your partner.
Movies are always movies. It can be a source of inspiration, a great relaxing time, but nothing more.
It’s not smart to compare your life or your partner with a movie. Movies are always perfect no matter what genre they are.
Your life is unique, and your partner is as well. Just have freedom of who you are and don’t compare yourself to non-existing things.
Give Each Other Space
Give each other space. Don’t expect your partner to read your mind. If you want them to know what you’re thinking, then you need to say it out loud.
I see couples that don’t communicate enough because they don’t want. It seems like everything should be understood within mind reading. But this is impossible.
This is why it’s super important to communicate and share your inner world and wished with your partner.
Yes, your partner has a special connection to you and no, he isn’t able to read your mind.
This is why people can communicate.
Say all you want or need with your words and don’t be shy. Even your sex wishes, because sex is a part of your relationships too.
Having a space for your understanding means telling first and then providing an action.
But if you’re quiet and expect your dream wish to become true somehow without telling it, be sure that it’ll never go to happen.
Make Small Changes
You might think that you’ll never be able to change anything about your partner, but you can always try. Start by doing something nice for him.
Then, continue to do things that show you care. Even if you don’t agree with his or her choices, you can still appreciate their efforts.
You see, attention is very important to your partner, but what is even more important are small things that we usually don’t pay attention to.
When you make tea for your partner — it’s a small thing, but it’s a pleasure. When you help to wash a plate — it’s another good thing.
Ok, we can talk not only about washing, cooking, and cleaning.
What about your partner’s dreams, business, or hobby? Maybe it’s time to help him to start what he is dreaming about.
Buy some item that is related to your partner’s wish and support his beginnings. We all work hard and over time even the strongest relationships become boring.
To avoid feeling bored, you need to make small changes that break all this routine. Routines are always killing relationships, so we need to feel more variety in our lives.
Give Compliments
Complimenting someone shows that you notice and value the good qualities they possess. When you compliment someone, you’re letting them know that you find them attractive and likable.
Complimenting someone lets them know that you respect them and that you enjoy spending time with them.
No matter if you’re at the beginning of your relationship or have been living with your partner for a long time, compliments matter.
Imagine a hardworking day when everything went badly. You have no inspiration, you’re tired, and hate your job.
And in front of your door, your partner says that you’re beautiful, your eyes are special, and so on. Will it improve your mood? I bet it will.
This is why both of you need to start making compliments. It should happen naturally, but you can remember your first date and the feeling you had before.
What things from your partner did you like the most? Was it a smile, humor, or something else? Think about it and start to compliment him again.
The same thing your partner needs to do for you. Once you start giving compliments to each other, your mood will improve, and you’ll bring your sparkle back again.
Final Thoughts
Building relationships was never easy, especially maintaining them. Over time, we become tired, bored, or selfish.
While this is human nature, we have a few ways how to improve the situation and bring back the sparkle in our relationships.
If you try one or all of my advice, you might start seeing improvements in your partner and yourself. It will happen naturally and will bring your interest in each other back.
Don’t wait for inspiration, make action today to see results tomorrow.
