Giving Your Significant Other the Space They Need
Active Listening, Disengagement, and Selflessness are the Magic Ingredients
It is one of the most difficult things we can endure, though I say this with a tinge of selfishness that creeps up in the back of my mind — having to support the person we most care about — by walking away from them. The hardest, most challenging part of the process is that we may want to fix what’s wrong with our partners, but we can’t. Sometimes in life, things come along that are wholly out of our control, and if we’re dating strong and resourceful partners, they’re usually used to being able to handle everything themselves without needing to ask others. Sometimes, this can make us feel alone, afraid, slighted, or isolated, and sometimes even attacked; but, I can assure you, this is just our intuition having a moment, a moment that will pass.
This is a powerful piece of understanding that I’m fortunate enough to have come upon in my life: just like I’ve said before, you can’t control other people, a motto of mine, I’ll also say you usually can’t fix other people’s problems, and you definitely can’t fix other people’s major problems. I don’t know who needed to hear that, but I sense that someone did.
I’ll start off by saying that even in the absolute best of relationships, loneliness…
