I’m skipping NYCC this year because of an archived Reddit Post
This will be the first year that my husband and I will be skipping New York Comic Con since we started attending a few years ago. As we get closer and closer to the date, I’ve been trying to convince myself that I made a responsible decision to not get passes, and that not going is what’s best for our family, and that going would have been such a hassle. Still, with almost a week to go until NYCC, I’m somewhat regretting my decision.
A few days before passes for NYCC went on sale (I was still pregnant at the time), I did a quick Google search for “bringing a baby to NYCC”. Most of the resources, not surprisingly, were focused on parents bringing their older kids, with lists of exhibits and booths to make sure to check out and tips and tricks, including making sure to pack juice boxes and talking to children about what cosplay is. Then, there was the dreaded archived Reddit post.
I’m not going to post a link to it because it still makes me sad, but I can give a quick summary. A guy asked a simple question — “Hey, I want to go to NYCC with my girlfriend and my 1 year old. What do you think? How would that work?” In typical Reddit fashion, he was basically shamed for even considering it. Here were some of my favorite paraphrased responses:
- You’re insane/crazy.
- Just please don’t bring a stroller. (I actually agree with this one.)
- Can’t you just get a nanny/family member to watch your baby? (Ha! If only people with no kids knew how hard it actually can be to get someone to watch your child.)
- You need to leave your kid at home so that you can work on yourself and your relationship with your girlfriend/Stop being one of those parents who insists on dragging your baby to things they won’t remember/You need to take a break from your child because it’s healthy.
(Someone on that post even started discussing how it didn’t matter whether they were potentially breastfeeding or not — they could just leave the kid with a sitter and do formula feeding. People online can be the worst.)
That last string of responses was what got to me. As a soon-to-be new mother, I was still worried that I would “lose myself” to motherhood, that I wouldn’t be able to manage the pre-baby life/post-baby life balance and would end of taking my baby into some situation that I really enjoyed that really wasn’t appropriate for them.
And I let a group of anonymous Redditors on a two year old post mommy shame me into not buying NYCC passes.
Maybe I don’t regret it. Maybe I can look at this as a learning opportunity to not go online looking for opinions for everything. Maybe I can say, “Hey, I saved a little money and a lot of stress. By next year, our son will be a whole year old and maybe we’ll try again then.” As of the writing of this post, my son is 2 months old and he’s already been on a plane, a train, a public bus and countless Ubers. Now that he’s here, I’m a lot more comfortable taking him out and about. Maybe I can look at this as the opportunity to put together the most adorable Baby Trunks/Bulma cosplay for next year.