Welcome to Holland:
Celebrating Autism Everyday


Original c1987 written by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved. Pictures mine.

water play in tidepools

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a diffability — to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this…

sleeping in an airport

When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation trip — to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It’s all very exciting.

homemade ball pool

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, “Welcome to Holland.

“Holland?!?” you say. “What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy.”

But there’s been a change in the flight plan. You’ve landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that you haven’t been taken to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It’s just a different place.
lining up collection of wigs

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It’s just a different place. It’s slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around….

floating with chalk fairies

and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills….

and Holland has tulips…

Holland even has Rembrandts.

bed of leaves

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy… and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That’s what I had planned.”

floor time bonding with toys lined up

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away… because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.

But… if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things … about Holland.

enjoying trampoline with sisters and wig
World Autism Day is observed every year on April 2nd. I dedicate this picture story remix to all who celebrate and embrace #autism everyday.

#worldautismday #worldautismacceptanceday #autismacceptance

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