My Incurable Cancer Compels Me to Imagine How My Sons Might Look After I’m Gone

I both love and hate this mental exercise, but I force myself through it because I don’t know how many of these transitions I’ll get to see

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I stare at my five-year-old trying to imagine how he’ll look in the future. I can see him fully…




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Adam Philip Stern

Adam Philip Stern

Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, Cancer Patient and Advocate. Follow on Twitter @AdamPhilipStern

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