Wounds of Owing

In my continuing research on how I could live a more authentic life, I came across the concept of ‘Wounds of Owing’- it resonated with me and I believe most of you will be able to come up with examples of having experienced this in your life.

Wounds of Owning is essentially when you go against the very fabric of who you are because you believe you owe it to someone else.

• You may have felt you owe it to your family to get married because you are a certain age or to pursue a certain line of work.
• You may have experienced wounds of owing when you feel like you need to be there for a friend even though it might be a time when you need to heal yourself.
• You may feel like you owe it to your children to be a certain way even if it slowly strips away at the very authenticity that makes you, you (…there are millions of small examples of this that you would not even be able to notice anymore)

These wounds of owing can run deep. You might develop a constant fear of judgment or fear of non-acceptance from your loved ones and society. As time goes by, some of us might be able to tell ourselves stories that make us believe our own lies. But the truth is this- You don’t owe anything to anyone. You have no debt to the world and you are truly free to live your life being your whole true authentic and unique self.

And after working through the initial questions that might arise from reading this and if you don’t convince yourself otherwise, you will realize that when you live in harmony with your authentic self, there is no need for an outside agency to help you differentiate the good from the bad and the right from the wrong. When you start living your authentic life you get a very wise compass free with the experience of living that way.

I sincerely hope you will consider that the feeling of life dragging you down may not be due to the presence of burdens but the regular absence of authenticity and harmony within yourself. And I hope this self-reflection inspires you to take your power back.