Do you feel bad when you are wrong?
No. You feel bad when you realise you are wrong.
I’ll give you an analogy. In that Loony Tunes cartoon where there’s this coyote who’s always chasing and never catching a roadrunner. In pretty much every episode of this cartoon, there’s a moment where the coyote is chasing the roadrunner and the roadrunner runs off a cliff, which is fine — he’s a bird, he can fly. But the thing is, the coyote runs off the cliff right after him, and he is totally fine too. He just keeps running — right up until the moment that he looks down and realises that he’s in mid-air. That’s when he falls. We’re like that coyote after he’s gone off the cliff and before he looks down. You know, we’re already wrong, we’re already in trouble, but we feel like we’re on solid ground. It does feel like something to be wrong; it feels like being right. Realising you’re wrong can make you feel like all that you know is wrong.
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