How to ask questions?
Short answer
Shravan, Manan and Nididhyasan
Long answer
The Bhagavad Gita highlights the significance of questioning by stating “pariprasnena sevaya,” (Chapter 4, Verse 34). Which can be interpreted as “asking questions continuously and tirelessly to serve oneself.” This suggests the importance of being curious and persistent in seeking knowledge and understanding.
I attend many events, workshops and conferences. I keenly observe replies to tweets and often make an effort to read comments on a blog post or a Youtube video. The whole world is commenting and we have ample opportunities to ask question everywhere. Here’s a good framework to ask questions which has helped me.
Step 1: “Shravan” — It means, listen.
When seeking advice from someone with more experience, such as a mentor, coach, boss, or manager, it’s crucial to listen attentively. Refrain from questioning at this stage. This is often where many people make their first mistake. So, simply listen with an open mind. No need to agree to what they say. No need to hurry to ask questions right away.
Step 2: “Manan” — It means, contemplate
You may not agree or grasp what you heard, so listen to it repeatedly. Research, read, listen, and watch for references. Think hard about it, debate with yourself, iterate within and do so in silence.
Step 3: “Nididhyasan” —It means, practice
Although you may not discover all the answers through introspection, it’s crucial to take action based on what you’ve learned or understood. It’s essential to perform the necessary actions, even if it feels like a waste of time or uncomfortable at first. Practice repeatedly for thousand times.
Following these 3 steps will likely eliminate 80% of your questions. You can then ask the remaining 20%.
It’s also gratifying and assuring for the person answering your questions with deeper insights and nuances that will enrich your learning.
I generally follow this framework while asking questions to my guests on my podcast, “Audiogyan”. In here, I speak to some of the most influential figures in the Indian creative world. From artists and filmmakers to musicians, architects, writers, curators, and designers. Guests share their thoughts, ideas, work, and philosophies on why they do what they do.
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